Are you an intuitive empath?

 

Below you can find information about what it means to be an empath, as well as how I work with empath clients during our psychotherapy sessions.

 

Intuitive empathy, is the ability to sense energy from other people to the extent that you absorb it in your body, becoming an ’energy sponge’.

While with training and awareness every person can sense the subtle energy of others, NOT everyone is an intuitive empath. It is therefore very important you find out if YOU are an intuitive empath, so you have tools for avoiding to be influenced by the energy of those around you. Following is a questionnaire you can use to identity if you are an intuitive empathy.

 

Am I an intuitive empath?

  1. Have I been described as overly sensitive?
  2. Am I easily stimulated and overwhelmed?
  3. If a friend or a person close to me is distraught or in physical pain, do I start feeling it, too?
  4. Am I drained in crowds, going out of my way to avoid them?
  5. Do I get anxious in packed elevators, airplanes, or subways?
  6. Am I super-sensitive to noise, light, scents, or excessive talking?
  7. When I see a grim newscast, do my energy plummet?
  8. Do I get burned out by groups and require a lot of energy to revive myself?
  9. When I am around negative people, do I run to the refrigerator to overeat?

                                                                                  Source: Judith Orloff, M.D.

 

In my therapeutic practice with empath clients, I follow the work of the psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff, who has written several books and courses on the subject, she herself being an intuitive empath.

Below is a short description of the challenges you may face as an empath, and the way I work with these challenges (based on the work and teachings of Dr. Judith Orloff).

 

Who are empaths?

What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? Having empathy means our hearts reaches out to another person in pain or in joy. But for empaths it goes much further. Since empath’s don’t have the usual filters that most people have, they feel others’ emotions and physical sensations in their own bodies. Empaths have an extremely sensitive neurological system. They don’t have the same filters that other people do to block out stimulation.

Empaths are emotional sponges who tend to absorb the stress (and positive energy) of the people around them and the world—so they may suffer exhaustion, anxiety, addictions, depression, and more.

 

Positive traits:

Empaths have marvelous traits. As an empath, you may

  • Have huge hearts and the instinct to help others in need or who are less fortunate.
  • Sense another person’s vitality.
  • Be a dreamer and an idealist.
  • Be passionate, deep, in touch with you emotions, and compassionate.
  • Be intuitive, spiritual, and can sense energy.
  • Have a special appreciation for the natural world and feel at home there.

 

But empaths also have special challenges: Again, if you are an empath, you may

  • Can go on sensory overload and absorb the stress and negativity of others.
  • Feel things intensely, and can experience emotional hangovers and burnout.
  • Also feel lonely and isolated.
  • Feel the physical discomfort, stress, and negative emotions of others even when they are unspoken—including their frustration, anger, and fear.
  • Feel tired and sick when we’re around toxic people, noise, violence, rushing, or yelling.

 

Empaths and addictions

Empaths commonly self-medicate the discomfort of being overstimulated by turning to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, and gambling, shopping, or other addictions. Why this susceptibility to these behaviors? The answer is the overwhelming feeling caused by the extreme sensitivity; empath’s feel”too much,” including their own (or even another’s) pain. Since this sensory overload is very difficult to manage, they look after ways to cope with it, by numbing themselves or to shutting off thoughts and feelings to diminish the empathy they experience—though not everyone is aware of this motivation.

Empaths who are struggling with addictions need to learn ways to center and protect themselves instead of self-medicating in unhealthy ways. There is a high price to be paid for coping with sensitivities though addictions. These behaviors exhaust your mind, body, and spirit, creating illness, depression, and anxiety.

Overeating and food addictions are common among empaths. Food is medicine; it can stabilize an empath’s sensitive system, but it can also throw it off. Excess weight can be a way of armoring yourself against absorbing other people’s pain or stress. Added pounds can make you feel more grounded and buffer negativity. However, gaining weight is not a healthy coping mechanism. There are so many other healthier ones!

Through our work together, we will focus on healthy alternatives and coping mechanisms against overstimulation.

It’s important to really understand the situations and the way you react to those; also, to develop a mindful awareness of your triggers and a readiness to use the grounding strategies we’ll discuss so you don’t impulsively act out with addictions when you’re stressed. Whether you periodically or regularly engage in an addictive behavior, you will learn how to grow larger than your addicted self to become a more empowered empath.

 

Empaths and relationships

Empaths often have special challenges in all their relationships, including intimate relationships because of their intense sensitivities. The right love relationship empowers empath’s. Being valued and adored makes us all feel appreciated and grounded.

Regarding intimate relationships, “too much togetherness” can cause empaths to go on sensory overload and feel suffocated. As a result, relationships may feel too emotionally demanding. Or alternatively, empaths may choose “unavailable people” to avoid the challenges of intimacy that arise with available partners (though they’re not always aware of this motivation).

Here’s the common struggle: you may want companionship, but it can feel unsafe. Empaths, often have the conflicting desires of wanting to be loved and wanting to be alone. We want to be needed but we don’t want other people’s needs to overwhelm us. Shutting down, repressing our anxieties, walking on eggshells, or running away when these issues surface is not the answer.

Therefore, during the sessions, we will work together towards healthier ways to deal with such situations, but learning to protect your sensitivities, set healthy boundaries, and authentically expressing your needs—especially the need for alone time.

 

People who drain your energy

People who drain your energy are attracted to the sensitivity and loving hearts of empaths. Sensitive people need to be prepared for them. Because empaths are emotional sponges, these people can suck the serenity and positivity right out of you. The super-toxic ones, such as narcissists, can make you feel unworthy and unlovable. You may tiptoe around them for fear of an explosion or withdrawal of their love.

During the therapeutic work, we will look into identifying those people who drain your energy in your life and developing strategies to effectively deal with them. Doing so will make a tremendous difference in the quality of your relationships and prevent you from being sapped by them.

 

Work

Empaths must feel comfortable in their environment, as is true for most people. However, since empaths may be less defended against stress than others, it may be harder for them to bounce back without becoming exhausted or ill in their jobs. Remember, as an empath, you may be a creator, an inventor, a visionary; you may think out of the box and love helping others. Therefore when your talents are tapped, work can be fulfilling and fun.

Empaths thrive in the right work environment and suffer in the wrong one. Some jobs are more satisfying and less stressful for empaths than others. For you to excel and enjoy your work, you may want to make the most of our sensitivities, intuition, thoughtfulness, quietness, and creativity. You don’t want to try to be someone you’re not.

In our work together, we will look into what is the best job that suits your sensitive temperament. If you need to stay in a less-than-ideal job, I will also show you how to make the most of your environment with certain skills. It’s also important to deal with eventually challenging colleagues at your work place—such as the chronic talker, the drama king or queen, and the narcissist. Once you get coping skills in place to deal with these drainers, work can become much more pleasant.

 

Empaths and intuition

Empaths perceive the world in such rich and intuitive ways. Intuition is a wonderful gift of being an empath. It allows us to sense and know the world in non-linear ways. People I call “intuitive empaths” are especially able to receive a wide range of vibrations. These “super senses” enrich their lives and connect them to the divine, putting them in touch with the magical timing of the moments of synchronicity—as well as déjà vu, spirit guides, and angels.

Intuitive empaths differ from “highly sensitive people,” in that they know things that others don’t know because their channels are wide open. Some have visions that predict the future and some can communicate with animals and plants. Some empaths even reach out to the great Beyond. Some are powerful dreamers who receive guidance in dreams. Intuitive empaths can access mysterious levels of human consciousness that mainstream medicine doesn’t yet understand.

As an empath, you must learn to use your gifts of intuition wisely and remain grounded. Sometimes these intuitive experiences can feel far out and overwhelming.

My work will help you understand who you are as an intuitive empath, to stay centered and integrate what you see and feel in a healthy way. We will work together towards self-empowering and self-development.

 

Empaths often feel like they don’t belong to this world because they don’t know others who have similar intuitions. Psychiatrist (and empath) Dr. Carl Jung said, “As a child, I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things that apparently others know nothing of—and for the most part, do not want to know. Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to one-self.”

The current stress level across the globe is enormous, which is taking a toll on empaths. Even the non-empaths are becoming empaths because their ordinary defenses are getting worn down! The secret to being an empowered empath is to learn the specific grounding and protection strategies. Then you will become more resilient and able to face life’s challenges without experiencing sensory overload.

                                    

Source: Judith Orloff, ‘The Empath’s survival guide, Life Strategies for sensitive people’, 2017